Remember when you were in grade school/high school/college, and getting sticky pics/studio pics were all the rage (heh, am I showing my age?)??? At the back we'd write dedications that usually went something like this:
Dear ____,
You are a really great, nice, thoughtful friend.
I hope you stay the same and never change.
KIT (Keep in Touch) 0998765432. F4ever!
Hugs and Kisses, Belinda
It's a bit of a weird sentiment, isn't it? Why would young girls want to wish stagnation on anybody??? Why is it that we were somehow made to feel that change was bad and something to be avoided? Strange indeed.
I remember that when I was about to leave for New York a couple of years ago, a bunch of acquaintances implored me to "remember where you come from and always stay as you are". WTF? Why would I move all the way to New York if I just wanted to stay as I am? Does that make any sense to you? It was one of the silliest bits of advice I had ever come across.
Of course, I know that at the root of it, really, is fear. We're afraid that if our friends change, they won't be our friends anymore. We're afraid that if our friends change, then the world will soon have to follow suit. We're afraid that if our people around us change, then maybe we'd have to change too - and we're too comfortable where we are. And we're afraid that change can make bits of the world move too fast and too far beyond our reach. And who wants to get left behind? Who wants to be left alone? We want everything to be as they are, because we don't know anything else, and the unknown makes us afraid.
And we try to put a good spin on our fears too. (Of course.) We try to justify it to ourselves. I mean, really, we just want to keep our friends on the straight and narrow, and change makes people want to go off exploring the side roads, doesn't it? So we tell others, under the guise of concern and friendship, that it would be best to try to never change. We can be quite ridiculous, can't we? Heh.
After all, isn't life just a string of changes? Isn't that one of the reasons were here? To change ourselves from little ignorant bundles of joy to wise old crones headed for the coffin?
I've changed so much that I've grown to like it - the changing, I mean. (Heh. Maybe that's why I have so few friends.) Sometimes, the changes take a lot of getting used to. Sometimes I've even railed against the world because change can bring so much pain. Sometimes the change is drastic and can leave a bit of a bitter aftertaste. But at the end of it all, I'm thankful for it. For better or worse, painful or not, change is a means to discover yet another part of Life. It's kinda like Life's little strip show -- change makes another piece of clothing fall. And I'd like to see as much as I can. Get my money's worth and all that.
So to everyone who cares, I have changed. Irrevocably. I see the world differently. I see myself differently. I am different. And a few years from now, I will probably be different again.
Change is good, my friends. It's wonderful. You should try it.